JAMA Pediatrics: "1 in 10 Americans has committed sexual violence."


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"I never wanted to get married, was never interested in it. Recently I’ve found that more women just love being single and don’t have any interest in that either. I think it is important for women to hear from other women that it is an option. It is an option to not be monogamous with one person for the rest of your life. There are huge industries built around being married and coupling off. It’s the same with women who don’t want kids. There’s not really a voice out there. For me, as someone who didn’t want to get married, I almost felt as though I was missing some chip or gene or something that makes women see a bride and then want to be a bride."

– Jane Pratt, editor of xoJane.com, founder of Sassy, quoted in Playboy

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"I started writing about sex because I didn’t really think that it would be that big a deal, and once I realized that it was actually a topic most people did not view with much honesty or maturity, I felt all the more compelled to continue writing as an act of defiance, not fully understanding at the time what I was getting myself into. I anticipated criticism, but I didn’t anticipate sheer hatred or the profound impact it would have on those around me. At the naive age of 19, it never occurred to me to censor myself, because I didn’t think that there’d be people — especially at Harvard — who would treat me so callously that I’d eventually self-censor. I also believed that if I stopped writing openly, then I would be letting the haters “win.”"
- Lena Chen, “I was the Harvard harlot,” Salon

(Source: salon.com)

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"Despite the fact that Candace did for the zipless Manhattan fuck what Woody Allen did for psychotherapy — made it okay, funny, part of the package — she is fairly square when you get right down to it. “I love the idea of casual sex because it seems kind of like modern, and you’re being cool, and you’ve got it all figured out, but I think that the reality is you have to be really secure and … ultimately it’s really not that fulfilling, is it? Actually, I’ve always felt that way.”"
- The Blonde Who Had More Fun  (via adult-mag)

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"In the past 30 years, ideas about what makes women “sexy” have become narrower, more rigid and more pornographic in their focus on display and performance. The pervasiveness of the porn aesthetic is especially insidious for young girls’ self-perception, as they constantly absorb the message that the modern choice comes down to either abject invisibility or duck-faced selfies across a portfolio of social-media accounts. I’m not exactly sure what I’m looking at when I see Kim Kardashian or Miley Cyrus, or their millions of adolescent imitators. But I’m pretty sure it’s not liberation."
- a fascinating NYTimes Magazine piece on porn, “Masters of Sex,” and the porn aesthetic

(Source: The New York Times)

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"In a lot of the chick lit, depicting women slightly older than me, the sexual maturity is that of a nine-year-old, maybe. The sex is just this giggly and ridiculous activity one is subjected to in order to make a man stay in your house and marry you. There’s no honest expression of female sexual desire, the kind you find even in those old cheesy feminist manuals like Our Bodies, Ourselves. We’ve gone backwards."

Zadie Smith

Pair with Smith’s 10 rules of writing

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I actually talked to the guy [who seemed like he was going after my girlfriend] in person finally (we get along great, strangely), and he’s told me that he’s stopped talking to her altogether now. He admitted to me that he had a crush on her, and he didn’t want to get in the way or cause a disturbance. We later smoked weed and played some MTG.

The funny thing is, one day my girlfriend starts venting to me about how he’s immature cause he isn’t texting her, and I blew up in her face, telling her that he has a great sense of honor and respect for other people. And I bitched how, for her to not see that, she is pretty blind. She started crying but she apologized and we had really good makeup sex.

Things are better now. When she leaves for work tonight, I’m gonna go back to his house and chill with him.

- stupernan (via Reddit)

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